We all have that girl in our life who literally radiates amazingness.
She walks into a room, people stare at her, she is all smiles (but the genuine type) and people are drawn into her and her beautiful nature. She’s not offensively beautiful, she’s not ridiculously tall, nor does she dress like a supermodel. She is just radiant.
Who wouldn’t want to be that girl?
Now, as someone who has suffered from low self esteem and a whole lot of past self loathing, I know what it’s like to want, so desperately, to be that girl.
Say nothing bad about yourself
Start little at a time, but for your first try, just do 24 hours. One full day of no negativity. When you do slip up, when you criticise yourself without realising, just think of three great qualities about yourself to erase the bad thought.
Look yourself in the eyes every single day
This can be totally confronting and scary at first. Especially if you’ve been fighting with yourself for a very long time. Having that eye contact and being able to feel compassion for the person staring back is a huge step to self love.
List 5 things you’ve achieved
I like to do this every couple of days. For the simple fact that we usually spend a whole lot of time dwelling on what we’ve screwed up or done wrong. We rarely celebrate our achievements, even the little ones. Doing this will remind you of how you’re progressing along the way.
Ask the people you love what they love about you
I ask lots of my clients to do this and they always come back shocked and amazed at the qualities they don’t even realise they possess. Friends and loved ones know you on a deeper level and usually without the judgement you have for yourself. Asking them to rate your qualities is simple to them because they love you unconditionally.
Do something you love each day
This is a radical act of self love. We get caught in this grind of doing doing doing and we rarely stop and say “I’m going to do something for me right now”. Even just for 5 minutes, taking that time to put you first is a way to show yourself that you believe in your worthiness.
It won’t happen tomorrow, probably not by next week but I promise you, if you continue to do these 5 things regularly, you will learn to love yourself. And that is the thing that really radiates. Self love and inner worthiness.
become radiant
If you want to get your self love in order, you can download my free eBook - 30 Days to Self Love and begin your own month long challenge. Show me your journey on Instagram using the hashtag #30DaysofSelfLove.
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